Is it true, though, that it's nice to be with someone? As someone who has been single, in a relationship, casually dating, and/or this weird thing where it's not official and people don't really know but everyone knows and it's pretty much official; I can say that being with someone you care about is very fulfilling. It's very enjoyable and it gives you a better outlook on many different things and all that nice sentimental stuff. It's nice, me personally, I enjoy what I can from any relationship but nothing is perfect so it's best not to be disappointed to not have a fairy tale relationships with picnics and magic carpet rides to the moon.
Why is it so important to have someone? It makes us feel good to know that whenever we're in school or at work, we don't have to wonder who is interested in us and who's not. We already know someone that does and appreciate that.
But the real issue that arises from this is the impatience. I know a few people that are a little extreme on finding someone to be with and everyone else is kind of the normal "I want a boyfriend/girlfriend, but I'm not going to tell people I want one to not seem desperate." It's totally normal to feel as such because we all feel it when we're single. Crap it happens a lot. There's only a few people that the whole "I'm single and I'm just having fun" shit works for. Most of us actually legitimately want to care about someone and be cared for. Human Nature 101, it's in the earlier chapters between Common Sense and Crazy Shit People Think Of.
So when someone is in a relationship and it doesn't work out, it always seems so demoralizing and just like a big bump in the road if it was a good relationship. If any reader here has been broken up with or not, you're either the one to say, "There's plenty of fish in the..." or you're the one receiving it.
If anyone is ever told that again after reading this post, you tell that person (politely) to shove it. Hell yeah there's plenty of fish in the sea. But have you ever been to an aquarium or watched the Discovery Channel? There's just a lot of fish that are unappealing and dangerous and just plain harmful that no one wants. Out of all the fish in the sea there's only a few fish that are actually appealing. And everyone has a different preference on kinds of fish. Hell some people don't even like fish (wink wink). So truth is, there's plenty of fish in the sea, but there's only that one fish that's worth more than any other fish to you. If a fish gets off the hook and doesn't work for you; fishing is about patience so just throw the line out there and wait for it.
It is something really nice. And nice things are worth a lot so they must be worth waiting for, so patience is the key. Gandhi and Confucius would back me up here.
Song of the Day
"Wait Up (Boots of Danger)"
by
Tokyo Police Club
Thanks for reading,
Fernando
It is true that everybody just wants somebody. It doesnt have to be serious, or "official", but someone there is enough to fill you with something needed by the human race. love,affection, acceptance, you name it. One or all comes with being with that certain someone. Yeah, some relationships are better than others, but sometimes a little goes a long way. Even if those out there say that being single and having fun is better, in the end they feel somethings missing. Jus sayin.
ReplyDeleteThere's always that unlucky story of that big one that got away. I would just like to point out that global warming is threatening the lives of our fish :( Wait, I don't even like fish.
ReplyDeleteI LOVE this one! Especiall this: "Out of all the fish in the sea there's only a few fish that are actually appealing." And this one: "But have you ever been to an aquarium or watched the Discovery Channel? There's just a lot of fish that are unappealing and dangerous and just plain harmful that no one wants." Hehehe, good stuff buddy.
ReplyDeleteI like the song :)
ReplyDeleteAnd this post reminds me of this:
Lets Dance to Joy Division by The Wombats
perhaps you have heard it?
there is an irony to it :)
Patience is a virtue.(a back up for your thoughts)
It's so true! I hate that statement about the fish! I told someone, "What if that fish is a barracuda or a shark?"
ReplyDeleteGoing back to your comments about why people want to be in a relationship, I saw this really good program that had relationship therapists and psychologists talk about it and their consensus was pretty simple. I like how this psychiatrist just said it, "Love is like cocaine." We get a good high out of a relationship which is why we like it a lot, of course it applies to a general consensus.
Now, further study is needed but looks like the science is starting to emerge.
I hate this comment box, I just wrote out this long, very indepth comment on bieng single in a society that is long infatuated with the idea of a "perfect relationship," and it all disappeared with an error message when I tried to post.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with this! Always reminds me of "Soulmate" by Natasha Bedingfield O_o but yes it is proven that people need that certain someone in order to live a balanced life. Being single isn't always a yellow brick road, and it isn't always fun. In the end everyone want's to have that ONE person that completes you and makes you feel like.. well like you have a purpose. And yes i concur that there's all these suckerfish and puff fish that fuck you up when you try to get close. So i shall wait patiently and look for that perfect fish for me :) Thanks Fernz
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