I don't know why but I reminisce about things and one of them was break ups.
Breaking up when I was a pre-teen was super easy. First of all because every "girlfriend" I had was kind of like a friendship where the benefits were holding hands and maybe a peck on the lips from time to time, so obviously being emotionally invested in these things wasn't a problem.
Girl: "Hey, I think we should break up. We sit on the opposite sides of the classroom now."
Me: "Oh...bummer. I'm gonna go play four-square now."
Next day, Girl is holding hands with a guy that has one of those first Nokia cell phones.
In high school, it seemed like things were different. There was more to a relationship than having someone to go to a middle school dance with. But of course these relationships are very exaggerated. After having billions of hormones flying through their brain, almost every teenager is trying to find their soul mate. Since we could fully understand the relationships in movies where people always fall in love in the end, that becomes an expectation and teenagers will force a relationship to work whether it's good or bad, convinced that they can't let their possible soul mate go.
Guy: "We should break up."
Girl: "No, you'll be back."
Guy: "Uh, ok I guess. Let's go to McDonald's."
As high school goes on, there are two paths you can take. You can realize that you're young and the world is bigger than it seems and go on and wait for the right person since you have plenty of time. Or you can plan to get married to the person you lost your virginity to Freshman year. Sorry if you left high school with your virginity and you're offended. Stay strong; sex can wait, masturbate.
After high school, I don't know, things can go well or not. I'm now 20 and that means nothing to the world, but I know that break ups suck. A lot.
Especially when you're around my age. You're trying to figure out what your part is in this big world and being knocked off balanced by someone that doesn't want to be with you anymore is tough.
The only thing that I can expect out of life is that break ups get harder. They're more brutal on your heart and it makes you lose faith in relationships.
We're human and we're afraid to do things we don't trust. It's natural. But our previous relationships make us be better at the next ones. We grow from naive children in a sandbox to adults with joint taxes and kids. We couldn't ever do it without learning from the misfortunes.
And for those snooty people that have only ever been with one person their whole life and disagree with what I say, I challenge you to tell me how your entire relationship has never suffered misfortune that would split you up.
Live and learn.
Live and let die.
Especially when you're around my age. You're trying to figure out what your part is in this big world and being knocked off balanced by someone that doesn't want to be with you anymore is tough.
Girl: "I just don't think this is working anymore. We should see other people..."
Guy: "But I only want to be with you."
Girl: "...Look, we just shouldn't be together anymore."
Guy: "I swear my book about how Darth Vader is the main character of every Star Wars movie is going to take off. I know it."
The only thing that I can expect out of life is that break ups get harder. They're more brutal on your heart and it makes you lose faith in relationships.
We're human and we're afraid to do things we don't trust. It's natural. But our previous relationships make us be better at the next ones. We grow from naive children in a sandbox to adults with joint taxes and kids. We couldn't ever do it without learning from the misfortunes.
And for those snooty people that have only ever been with one person their whole life and disagree with what I say, I challenge you to tell me how your entire relationship has never suffered misfortune that would split you up.
Live and learn.
Live and let die.
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